Family,

My rage is strong and my hurt deep. 

I'm not shocked nor surprised by what's going on.

I have no more betrayal left to feel. 

I channeled what few words I could in this Medium article here. And I've vocalized my thoughts on my personal Facebook page. 

I've demanded reparations, and I've circled the wagons about who is and is not my friend.

I've also managed to care for myself through this because I refuse to let the stress and anger of being Black in America consume me.

My family needs me, you need me, we all need WE to be well enough to fight. 

Our self-care and self-love are imperative, during this time of police violence when Breonna Taylor, George Floyd, Sandra Bland and Ahmaud Arbery are killed with impunity.

Here are 14 Best Tips for Wellness and Protection

The Mundane

1. Get some physical protection. Learn how to use it. Teach your children how to use it. If you are uncomfortable with firearms, there are machetes, blades, etc.

2. Ensure your will is updated and your estate is in order. Consult a reputable lawyer or consider online resources.

3. Demand reparations from whyte people*. Hold them accountable.* Here's how I did it here and here. (yeah, we gotta be FB friends. Add me!)

4. Teach your children the unapologetic, unadulterated truth. Learn it yourself. Here are three of my faves: Aint I A Woman, Mojo Workin', and From Slavery to Freedom.

5. Learn about the symptoms of PTSD and childhood trauma. Find a Black therapist. Learn how to soothe your child when they present symptoms. Find them a therapist too. Here's a guide.

6. Move your body. Work out the tight, anxious, energy.

7. Eat well. Nutritious, delicious, comforting, healing foods.

8. Stop focusing on proving your humanity and respectability to white folks. Choose the names you love. Wear your hair in the way that brings you joy. Take up space. Use your voice. Wear what you want.

9. Take a social media fast. Trust me, no one will think you're less "woke" for resting your mind and spirit. This has been hugely powerful for me. (Thank you Toni for recommending!)

The Spiritual

1. Learn about herbs for protection**. Research their properties as well as how to use them. Be cautious and pay attention to toxicity levels as well.

2. Erect an ancestor altar and speak to your people. There are many traditions and styles to choose from. We talked about some basics in Sister Space last week. Why weren't you there???

3. Get a divination. I now offer them myself and you can click here to schedule your spiritual reading.

4. Take a spiritual bath. Using salt is the most basic and easy mineral for protection. Research different types and how to use them. Check out the free guide below for Spiritual Tools by Black Women.

5. Bathe your space with healing sound and laughter. Think about sounds that are relaxing to you or binaural beats that are synced to the desired mood. There are tons of articles out there and playlists on Apple Music or Spotify.

Please, please, please forward this to other Black Women who need to read this.

Print this out and refer to it regularly.

Notes:

* If you are uncomfortable, examine why. Do the inner work to see what your beliefs are and where they come from. Then do the inner work to transform. Schedule a session with me.

** DO NOT cherry pick from traditions that do not come from your blood lineage. If your family did not smudge with sage and you're not Native American, do not smudge with sage.

That was a LOT! 

Tell me, which tip are YOU using?

Black Lives Matter!

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